Joke by Lisa Elliott
Being a parent is humbling. Anything you thought you knew about parenting before you had kids, soon vanishes as you find out how little you really knew. It’s a miracle any of us survive!
Making mistakes is inevitable. Luckily, you can learn from them. However, the best way is to learn from someone else’s mistakes! That way, you don’t have to make them all yourself!
Here are 5 to avoid:
Mistake # 1 – Not Paying Enough Attention:
When you drive, you pay attention to the road, correct? But at home, you may want more time to yourself, and rely on TV and video games to ‘babysit’ them. When you fail to pay proper attention to your children you not only endanger them, you are saying, without words, that they are not worth paying attention to.
SOLUTION: Engage with your kids more to increase attachment and connectedness. Think, E.T.C. for 3 keys to good communication:
Communication (which includes Talking and Listening). Remember to enjoy your kids. This period of their lives, and yours, will never come again.
Read more here…
Mistake # 2 – Being too strict, or too lenient:
Either extreme is bad. Being too harsh can break your child’s spirit.
Being too ‘nice’ is not really being nice, and in the long run, teaches kids to be lazy and selfish.
Letting kids have too much time in front of electronic devices to keep them quiet will backfire afterwards.
SOLUTION: Like Dog Training, ‘Child training’, is a learned skill. We need to balance Love and Limits, and set boundaries. You must be a Leader and take control. Learn how to discipline, limit electronic time, and KEEP THEM BUSY with other activities. Read more…
Mistake # 3- Undermining your spouse’s authority in front of the children.
Having disagreements over how to raise the kids is inevitable now and then, but take care not to belittle or override your spouse in front of the children. Trying to be ‘RIGHT’ all the time can be wrong.
SOLUTION: Politely interject, “May I talk with you in the other room for a minute?” Take your spouse aside quietly and share your ideas away from the kids. When you’ve come to an agreement, you can announce with a united front, “We have decided… etc”.
Mistake # 4 – Doing too much.
I was really good at that! One day my son yelled out, “DAD! MOM HAD A NERVOUS WRECK!”
We get caught up trying to get everything done, and end up ignoring our most important relationships. Our patience evaporates, and then our rapport with others, too.
SOLUTION: SLOW DOWN – and QUICKLY! Face the fact that you will never get it all done. Two weeks after you are gone from this world, your house will need cleaning again, so RELAX. Allow yourself to be ‘interrupt-able’. Kids need YOU.
Mistake # 5 – Not planning ahead.
Are you working too hard? Are the kids letting you? They will, if you LET them!
SOLUTION: ORGANIZE. Have regular family meetings where you discuss family goals and desires. There is less chaos when there is order in the home. Share the problems you have getting everything accomplished. Divide the chores among everyone according to their abilities and create more peace at home. Read more…
There’s lots more!
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4 – What to do when you need to give CONSEQUENSES for bad behavior.
5 – How to use POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
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