LOVE is a Messy Business. Is it WORTH it?

This Love stuff is pretty insecure…

First they love you, then they don't!
How many times have we wanted love and not gotten it? A million? A trillion?


Scary, too. The risk when we decide to open our heart to another.  We have no guarantee it will ever come back! There is nothing so agonizing as the pain of love not returned.

So – shall we STOP giving? Keep that box of chocolates for ourselves until someone else gives us one of theirs? Or avoid love altogether and return to a safer existence of order and control?


I think it’s more likely that there’s plenty of LOVE, but people are just stingy with it!

Regardless of their religious persuasion, most people would agree that ‘God is Love’.  God created us, so it belongs to all. 

The great teachers of the world have given us the same truths:

  • Buddha taught us to purify ourselves and have compassion for all creatures.
  • Jesus Christ asked us to love all beings as we love ourselves. 
  • Rabbi Hillel taught us: “Not to do to others what we wouldn’t want to be done to ourselves”.
  • Krishna taught us to see the Divine in each and everyone in the world.
  • Mohammed taught us to submit to the will of God and be his instruments.
  • St. Augustine said, “To love each person as though you had love for them alone, and to love all, as though all were one.” 

If only we could all do that. But how?


Leo Tolstoy said, “The most important thing, and a difficult one, is to LOVE LIFE, for life is God, and to love Life, is to Love God.”

Pascal said, “Love has reason, that Reason does not know.”

But, people are afraid of the unknown…

Woody Allen said, “Everyone wants to go to Heaven, but nobody wants to die.”

In the 1958 movie, “The Inn of the Sixth Happiness”, the character played by Ingrid Bergman feels her heart calling her to serve the poor in China.  Everyone tells her she is making a mistake if she doesn’t plan her life better.  But her emphatic response is,

“The planned life is a closed life. It can be endured perhaps, but not lived!”  Luckily, she follows her heart, and finds more security in the unknown. 

Joseph Campbell said, “We must be willing to get rid of the life we had planned to be able to have the life that is waiting for us.”

[dropshadowbox align=”none” effect=”lifted-both” width=”550px” height=”” background_color=”#ffffff” border_width=”1″ border_color=”#dddddd” ]“Love is giving the other person what they need the most when they deserve it the least.”[/dropshadowbox]

The MYSTERY of Love is that the more we GIVE, the more we GET

You can’t CONTROL love, but you can let yours out. And your store will grow as you do.  

Someone said: “If all else fails you can always get a pet.” Love even crosses the boundary lines of species. 

Speaking of dogs, Groucho Marx said, “The best friend outside of a dog, is a book. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read.”

Whatever you do, LOVE is NEVER wasted. It makes the world a better place, and WILL come back to you, somehow, some way.

All you can do is:

  • Jump in and pour forth what YOU have to give,
  • Don’t worry about getting it back from the same place you gave,
  • Then watch – and see what happens!

And by the way, I need some of it too, if you have any to spare.

We’re all in this together – this leaky boat called Life.  So while we’re here,  let’s try not to poke holes in the other guy’s side of the boat!

I'm You TOO!


Love to you,

Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon

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