Suicide Warning Signs

Suicide is the third largest cause of death among teens.

Suicide is the third largest cause of death among teens.

10 Suicide Warning Signs in Young People

“Each day in our nation there are an average of over 5,400 suicide attempts by young people grades 7-12,” according to the American Society for the Positive Care of Children, or American SPCC. This is just one of the many alarming statistics about young people and suicide. Although it can be hard to tell when someone is contemplating suicide, there are signs you may recognize if you know to look for them. Listed below are 10 possible suicide warning signs. It is worth noting that some of these signs are similar to the signs of depression. Depression and suicide are closely tied, so these are very important to be aware of.

Signs to Look Out For

  1. The individual is talking about wanting to hurt or kill themselves. Talk of suicide must always be taken seriously. You may even notice the person writing these thoughts in notes or a journal. If you or someone else are thinking or talking about suicide, call 911 immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline may also be reached at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
  2. The person is expressing hopelessness about the future. When someone expresses hopelessness there is definitely something going on, and this must never be taken lightly.
  3. The individual begins giving away treasured possessions to family or friends. These are items the person would never give away under ordinary circumstances. This may mean that the person wants the belongings to go to loved ones because they have no intention of being around much longer.
  4. There is change in eating habits. The individual may eat little or not at all, or conversely, overeat. When a significant change like this occurs, further investigation is always advised.
  5. The individual is sleeping too much or too little. Often a person contemplating suicide either can’t turn off their brain to sleep, or are so lacking in motivation for life that they sleep all the time.
  6. The person seems to be losing interest in their favorite activities. Often, a person considering suicide will not have the motivation to go to place or partake in things they loved in the past.
  7. The individual begins withdrawing or feeling isolated. People suffering from severe depression with suicidal thoughts will withdraw from everything, mostly relationships and interaction. They choose to be alone rather than participate in any activities or spend time with the people they love most. 
  8. There is an unusual neglect of personal appearance. The individual may stop taking care of their outward appearance due to a complete disregard for personal care. Or there may also be extreme alterations to their “normal” appearance.
  9. The person is experiencing changes in personality. They can go through many extreme emotional and mood changes involving sadness, withdrawal, irritability, anxiety, exhaustion, and indecision. These are classic signs for both depression and suicidal feelings.
  10. The individual may be “acting reckless or engaging in risky activities – seemingly without thinking.” Some of these reckless or risky activities may include reckless driving, drinking, taking drugs, or having unprotected sex. The person may feel that because they intend to die, it doesn’t matter how unsafe their behavior is.

Addiction and Suicidal Thoughts

Drug use and addiction may lead to suicidal thoughts, and vice versa. There are many ways to learn about or seek help for addiction. Whether you’re a member of the African American,  Asian American, Native Hawaiian, or Pacific Islander, Hispanic or Latino, LGBTQ, or another of the many communities out there, there is help for you.

Please remember, if you or someone you know is in imminent danger call 911 immediately. Whether in imminent danger or not, you may also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Take action to help yourself or someone you know.

Steve Johnson has always been dedicated to promoting health and wellness in all aspects of life. Studying in the medical field has shown him how important it is for reputable health-related facts, figures, tips, and other guidance to be readily available to the public. He created PublicHealthLibrary.org with a fellow student to act as a resource for people’s overall health inquiries and as an accurate and extensive source of health information. When he isn’t hard at work in his studies, Steve enjoys playing tennis and listening to his vintage record collection.

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At 95 years of age, June Foray (famous as the voice of Rocky and Natasha from ROCKY and BULLWINKLE) did all 4 voices for my animated short, SOMEBODY NEEDS YOU!  Dani Bowman, a remarkable girl with Autism, did the lion’s share of the animation.

Now it will be featured at Comic-Con in July, 2016!

Please watch it NOW: 

I need to tell everyone about this character-building story for kids.

Please watch the video, and if it has made a positive impact on you, leave a review on our ‘Great Non Profit’s page’:

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Just click on ‘WRITE A REVIEW’.

Then, as a reward to you when you are done, please fill out the form below and download a copy of SEE WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING AT!, my ART BOOK for children.  It’s a $9.99 value, but yours free, as a THANK YOU for helping spread the word about what we are doing to build better character in kids.

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Create Peace and Love ALL YEAR ROUND♩ ♪ ♫ ♬

Want Peace?

Loving the people in our lives can bring more peace to our world.  Maybe not the entire world, but at least to those people our lives touch. I’m so grateful for each and every one of you who has reached out to me..

Love and blessings to YOU!

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So much to be thankful for! My wonderful husband, Jas and I were recently busy moving into a new apartment. Now that we’re settled in, we are busy creating musical projects and mentoring students.
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Jas created a charming video of his mom, who at 95 years old sang “Santa Claus Is Comin’ To Town”! Click on the pic below to see it!Mom-hilsdon-pic


My friend, Satyam Pal, an 3D Animation student in India created this Christmas message in 3D! I am so proud of him and thankful he allowed me to share it here!  Click below to watch:
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Our short animated film, “Somebody Needs You” was recently submitted to the 43rd Annual Annie Awards. Though it was not nominated for an award, we are very proud of it. See it here: 

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We LOVE giving to others. And we have never gotten or expected a salary for the work we do. But there are many expenses in creating, printing and distributing materials to those who need and cannot afford them. Our budget is very slim, and we need help too.

Will you please come to our rescue and make a tax-deductible-end-of-the-year donation?

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Thank you so much,

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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon 
Director: EDU DESIGNS, a public-benefit nonprofit charity.
Creator: GoMommyGO® the Registered Trademark of EDU DESIGNS

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The Night Princess in Mandarin


THE NIGHT PRINCESS is an original fable that encourages us to see that the way we treat anyone, is the way we treat everyone!

With tears streaming down his face, RAY BRADBURY declared,
“It’s BEAUTIFUL!”   VAN DYKE PARKS said:I loved your show, too. Terrific animation to a great tale. The music does justice to it all!”

The story of THE NIGHT PRINCESS
is as gripping as it is mysterious. What do you think happened to The Night Princess? The ending is up to YOU.

Here are questions for discussion with students:

What do YOU think happened?

Was she still alive?

What did the king do?

Did he learn a lesson?

What lesson did he learn?

 

SOON to be in book form.  

The Night Princess © Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon, 2006

Newly updated to Mandarin in 2015

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Watch “SOMEBODY NEEDS YOU!” – NOW!

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To see our animated short, click on the image above!

 

Sometimes we may want to do something “big and important” in the world, all the while missing opportunities to help those around us.

The story Somebody Needs You is important for kids – to learn to pay attention to their surroundings, and see that they CAN make a difference, wherever they are. 

You can see it HERE.  And it’s getting rave reviews already!  

 “This should be a character education tool in schools across the country!” ~David McKibbin, writer/singer/actor

 “That was amazing. Totally loved it.” ~Charles Halloran, artist and owner of Halloran Comics

When June Foray, (best known for her work on Rocky and Bullwinkle), originally heard the story I wrote to help children, she recorded all 4 voices as a favor to me.  It’s taken a while to finish, but thanks to Dani Bowman and the generous contributions of our talented volunteers, we MADE IT!

Photo on left: Ruth Elliott and June Foray at the Annie Awards, 2013. On right: the famous Temple Grandin and Dani Bowman at a conference of AutismWorksNow, 2015.

Photo on left: Ruth Elliott and June Foray at the Annie Awards, 2013. On right: the famous Temple Grandin and Dani Bowman at a conference of AutismWorksNow, 2015.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dani Bowman, the director and chief animator of our project, is a high functioning individual with Autism. She founded DaniMation Entertainment, at the remarkable age of 14! After Dani agreed to work personally with me, I knew I had found a partner. She has been the prime mover in bringing this story to life. 

Matt Miller, animator and character designer, generously volunteered his awesome design talent, just after overcoming his battle with cancer this year.  (Read what his adoptive mom wrote about it, here)

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A sample of Matt Miller’s work!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Right: Ruth, June Foray, Dominique Ovalle, and Nicholas Mastrangelo.

Others who helped were: Fine artist Dominique Ovalle, on backgrounds, plus Zack Miller and Nicholas Mastrangelo with additional animation. 

 

ALSO: Special thanks go to Patrick Eidemiller and Sandra Vielma, who were supportive in more ways than I can list. We couldn’t have done it without them. And thanks to Toon Boom Animation for contributing the software.

And thank you to everyone who encouraged us along the way!

Watch it and share the link! https://youtu.be/IJAKzqK20kQ

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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon
Director, EDU DESIGNS
Creator, GoMommyGO®

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A Mother’s Gift: WELCOME TO OUR HOME

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Betty with little Matthew a week after he joined the family.

Welcome to our home

We knew we wanted children and made the decision to adopt. When we started the process it was so exciting to think that we would be able to offer them a place in our home . . . to become part of our family!

Both of our children arrived from Central America at 5 ½ months old.

I was always a little sensitive to their health issues, however, since we had no genetic background on either one of them.

About 1 ½ years before our son was to finish college he fell ill. It seemed one thing or another.  I talked to him daily and encouraged him to see the medical staff at college. He continued to plug along so I thought it was just the long nights of studying and not eating properly that contributed to his exhaustion.
Then 3 weeks before he was to finish college he wanted to throw in the towel and just quit and come home. It broke my heart, but I encouraged him to stay since he was so close to being done. We had a long phone conversation and the next day he called me. 

“Mom, I thought about it and I am not a quitter. I’m going to do whatever it takes to finish the last weeks I have left.”

It was a sigh of relief. I talked to him a couple of times a day just to check up on his mental and physical state. He made it to the finish line and came home. I couldn’t be more proud of him.

When he finally arrived home we thought his dream job of becoming an animator was just around the corner. January 2015 we went to the Dr. and he was put on a 6 month prescription for a dermatological condition that had developed. Because of it he had to stay close to the Dr. here and could not really venture out of the area. I told him it was ok, that after the 6 months were over he could continue to find his dream job.

However, in June 2015, he was diagnosed with Testicular Cancer. His words were “Life is not fair to me”. Our hearts melted and we knew that we had to be strong for him.

The first surgery was performed days after the diagnosis and then it was a choice between Chemo Therapy and RPLND surgery. We did discuss this but knew that it was his body, his life and that he had to make the final decision. He elected surgery and we backed him 100%. August 2015 it was performed, and in recovery is now getting stronger every day.  His team of Doctors at the cancer center gave him a good prognosis. With active surveillance he will get blood work every 3 months and a yearly CT scan. 

I am so thankful that after all he has been through his passion for art and animation is stronger today than it has been in a long time. His words now are:  “Mom I have been sick, been told I have cancer, had 2 surgeries, now it’s time to move ahead in life and prove that whoever hires me will be glad they did”.

Here is Matt today, a survivor, pursuing his dream of a career in Animation.

Here is Matt today, a survivor, pursuing his dream of a career in Animation.

I reflect on what I have always told my children since they were little:
“Follow your dream in life – in your dream is your strength”
“Don’t compare yourself to others, you are your own person, stay grounded, stay rooted and always try to always find a positive in everyday”
“Don’t let negative things that happened in the past control how you navigate through your future”


NOTE from Ruth: I am so grateful for the love and support Betty has given her son, physically and emotionally. By encouraging him to follow his dream he will be a blessing to many. He has already blessed others us by generously sharing his talents in our animated short, SOMEBODY NEEDS YOU. See a preview of the film he helped to bring to life here:
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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon
Director, EDU DESIGNS
Creator, GoMommyGO®

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My ART BOOK for KIDS!

See What You're Looking At! © Ruth Elliott

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SEE WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING AT reveals the secrets of how children (and adults) can learn to draw!

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PLEASE TELL YOUR FRIENDS!  Emmy Award winning author and illustrator Ruth Elliott has packed over 30 years of experience in drawing into one amazing book. What makes this art textbook unique? She has distilled what she knows into simple language that anyone can understand, in step-by-step lessons that build on the previous one, to discover new skills in ‘seeing’ what you’re looking at. Including tips on everything from how to hold your pencil to how animation works, plus a bonus section with art games.

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SOMEBODY NEEDS YOU!

EDU Designs AND DaniMation Entertainment TEAM UP
TO PRODUCE “SOMEBODY NEEDS YOU!”

Somebody Needs You is a story about a distracted little girl who thinks she’s not important. Once she sees that others around her have real problems, she discovers something new about herself.
 
Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon, founder of EDU Designs, created the story & music and assists in animation & production.
The animated short features the voice talents of the incomparable June Foray. Best known for her work on Rocky and Bullwinkle in the early 60’s, and a myriad of cartoon characters over the years, June created the annual Annie Awards in 1972 to recognize the contributions of individuals in the Animation Industry. June lent her voice to our story as a personal favor to me.
 
  
Photo on left: Ruth Elliott and June Foray at the Annie Awards, 2013. On right: the famous Temple Grandin and Dani Bowman at a conference of AutismWorksNow, 2015. 
 
Dani Bowman is the director and chief animator of our project. Dani founded DaniMation Entertainment, of La Cañada, CA, at the remarkable age of 14. As a high functioning individual with Autism, she has a passion for public speaking, animation, and teaching the arts to others on the spectrum. After Dani agreed to work personally with me on this film, I knew I had found a partner. She has been the prime mover in bringing this work-of-love to life.
 
 
Left: Ruth, June Foray, Dominique Ovalle, and Nicholas Mastrangelo. Right: Matt Miller’s stand-in.
We also received valuable support from several other notable artists: On backgrounds, Dominique Ovalle; in animation, Nicholas Mastrangelo; and with character development, Matt A. Miller. All donated their generous time and energy. So thankful for them!
We are now in final production. Look for our animated short to be released online soon!
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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon
Director, EDU DESIGNS
Creator, 
GoMommyGO® 
Kids and Parents need all the help they can get.
EDU DESIGNS and GoMommyGO® are there to help.
 
GoMommyGO® is a Registered Trademark of EDU DESIGNS, a Non Profit 501(c)(3) Corporation 
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HOW KIDS LEARN EMPATHY

Why is it that some people seem to have more empathy than others? And some seem to have none at all. How did we get this way? Is it nature? Is it nurture?

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           Neuroscientist Dr. Marco Iacoboni, author of Mirroring People, the new Science of how we connect with others” tells how scientists have discovered the brains’ capacity for what they call ‘mirroring’: the ability to feel something that happens to another as though it’s happening to us!  

What we call ‘empathy’ happens when our brains light up in the same areas in our brains that mirror what the other person is feeling. One of the earliest scientific observations found a monkey’s brain fired up seeing someone licking an ice cream cone as though he were eating it himself!

Dr. Iacoboni says, “All in all, we come to understand others via imitation, and imitation shares functional mechanisms with language and empathy.”

To me  that sounds like: “MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO!”

Most of us are innately wired to feel for each other. And certainly nothing makes you sacrifice for another person faster than being a parent. When your little one suffers, you suffer. When they laugh, you’re happy. And in moments of clarity we may even see a bum on the street as a mother’s once beloved child, and suddenly we are all humanity struggling with the same breath.

It’s no wonder that most spiritual faiths embrace some kind of teaching that expresses “Treat others the way YOU want to be treated”.

But how can we teach that to children?

According to Dr. Iacoboni, “…whenever you expose kids to any form of… violence, through media, through video games or through films, then you put these kids at risk of expressing violence with their own acts because they’re going to imitate that.”

What kids need is more GOOD examples.

We get tired. The house is a mess. The pressure is great to finish our ‘to do’ lists. But our kids will only be teachable for a little while, and they are learning from YOU things that are ‘more caught than taught’.   Dr. Iacoboni said, ”The way we understand other people’s feelings is by simulating in our brain the same activity we have when we experience those emotions.”

So why not let them help with some of those chores? Turn off the TV and involve them with the day to day boring things that you want to ‘get over with’. Let them ‘mirror’ what YOU are doing. It’ll be more fun if you work together. They’ll learn to sacrifice, too! A little bit won’t hurt them. Really. And their fun will be so much better when they are done. They’ll be proud of themselves, too.

That’s why I made all my Behavior Charts and put them on GoMommyGO® for Free. So you can reinforce the kinds of behaviors you want your children to have.

I know you care about educating children for good character, or you wouldn’t be reading this.

If you ARE a parent, I know you must be pretty busy, so thank you for your time!

Here are some links you can use to help you find things fast on GoMommyGO®:

 1- FREE Behavior charts on GoMommyGO (the 8 1/2 X 11 charts you download, customize and print up yourself)

2 –  When you click on any image on THIS PAGE it takes you to what the images mean.

3 – TIPS for PLANNING AHEAD!

4 – And what to do when you need to give CONSEQUENSES for bad behavior.

 Many thanks for reading and caring about the future adults around you! For your gift of any amount, I have something special for you – Click here to find out what it is!

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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon
Director, EDU DESIGNS
Creator,
GoMommyGO® 

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FOUR BUILDING BLOCKS of CHARACTER!

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Give Kids what they REALLY need:

THE FOUR BUILDING BLOCKS OF CHARACTER.

It starts when they’re small.

The Four Building Blocks of Character can be boiled down to these:

1-ASK

2-THANK

3-APOLOGIZE

4-FORGIVE


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BUILDING BLOCK # 1 We learn to ASK or ADMIT 

When we learn to say, “PLEASE?” we ASK. In ASKING, we ADMIT our need for others! From the moment we were born we began asking – crying – for our needs to be met. The very fact of our existence is proof that someone answered that cry – cared about us enough to nurture, feed and protect us – or we wouldn’t be here. Sometimes we hate to admit we need other people. But relationships are the stuff of life! We ALL need each other, so it’s OK to ASK. Hopefully we learn to ask POLITELY!

PLEASE – teach kids to say PLEASE!


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When we realize we need others, we begin to be THANKFUL for what has been given us. We wouldn’t have anything, not even life itself, if it had not been first been GIVEN TO us!

THANK YOU for teaching kids to say“THANK YOU!”


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BUILDING BLOCK # 3 We learn to APOLOGIZE

Being human we all make mistakes. To APOLOGIZE requires humbling ourselves and ADMITTING we are not perfect. We can never grow further in our character until we can learn to say, “I’m Sorry.”  (See my little story ‘THE LAND of I’M SORRY’!)


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BUILDING BLOCK # 4 We learn to FORGIVE

After we admit we are not perfect, we can then say, “I FORGIVE YOU”, knowing that we also need forgiveness. How else can we get along in this world?


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The habits we learn as children will stay with us a lifetime. Giving kids THE FOUR BUILDING BLOCKS OF CHARACTER will lay the foundation of a good life.

How many gang wars, world wars, marriage conflicts and sibling rivalries would be avoided if people just learned these four things:

ADMIT we need each other,

THANK others,

APOLOGIZE for our mistakes, and

FORGIVE one other!

“Habits are actions built up strong and tall.

Like bricks laid together to form a high wall.

When once they are built it is so hard to break them,

you’d better be careful about how you MAKE them!”  – Mr. Stevens*


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Creator,
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*P.S. Thanks to my son Jon for sharing this poem he learned from Mr. Stevens in 5th Grade and STILL REMEMBERS! 

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Great Idea for Creative Kids!

While searching for a pop up card to make for my grandson, I found so many great ideas that I couldn’t decide which one to make!  

But one of the best ideas I discovered was in this awesome video from creative artist, Maybelline Chow. (Check out her blog at: www.maybeitsmaybe.blogspot.com)

I wanted to make one, too, but when I couldn’t find a template, I studied the video and made my own in Photoshop.  You can print it out to make 4 cards on one 8 1/2 X11 page of card stock.  Here’s the template:

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Drag the image to your desktop (or go to this link if that doesn’t work: 

http://www.edudesigns.org/blog/wp-content/uploads/never-ending-card-base-low-res2.jpg  and right click to ‘save as’ to your computer.

The RED lines show where to CUT.  The GREY DOTTED lines show where to FOLD.  

Here are the steps I followed after printing out the page:

NOTE: Watch Maybelline Chow’s video carefully all the way to the end. Study how the same motion is repeated each time, so you can remember it.

1- Cut the page with scissors along the solid vertical and horizontal red lines to make four cards.

2- Carefully cut the 2 lines that look like a Red X in the center of the card. I used an exact-o knife and a straight edge, over a self-healing cutting matt.   (WARNING: BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL. Using an Exact-o knife, or box knife, can be very dangerous if you are not accustomed to it. If you are a child, do not attempt this without adult supervision.)

3- Once the X is cut in the center of the card, SCORE only the GREY dotted lines to make them easier to bend.

4- Holding the card in the air, bend the top section towards you, allowing the pointy part under it to swing up behind it so it does NOT get bent too. Do this for each of the sides, as is shown in the pictures below.

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Once you’ve gotten the creases in the right place, begin by drawing your first face in the OPEN position. Observe where Maybelline put the different parts of the face in the video, so they could be covered up by the next flaps! Experiment using light pencil to get them in the right places, then fold the next part down and keep adding sections of the next face you decide on. When you are happy with the different faces on each side, you can go over them with ink, markers, or any thing you like!

Have fun!

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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon
Director, EDU DESIGNS
Creator,
GoMommyGO® 

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CONNECTEDNESS

holdHands_rectangle-lo-resWhen I was a child my mom and I would walk a long way to the grocery store. It was hard to keep up unless she would hold my hand. Then somehow her energy would be transmitted to me, and it was easier to go the distance.

Connectedness IS the difference.

Connectedness is needed by adults as well as children. In Claudia Gold’s latest post, she reveals how “Connectedness . . . protects us against the harmful effects of stress.” 

There used to be days when the thought of cleaning the house weighed on me like a sack of bricks. But anytime someone I liked was coming over, the work breezed by with near joy. It was the anticipation of a supportive friend that made the work easier to accomplish, even fun. Just the IDEA of being connected to someone can make a big, positive difference.

How we THINK and relate to others is most important in connecting.

Connecting is COMMUNICATING on important levels, from the INSIDE-OUT.

The burden we bear alone is twice as hard to carry.

And we don’t have to.

If you’re the type who has failed at connectedness, here are some things you can do. Develop the capacity for empathy, become a flexible thinker, learn to regulate your emotions and practice resilience.

To do this you will need to find someone who will listen.

And, IF you have to force yourself, listen back.

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PEACE and LOVE are a LOT of WORK!

I love people! When I was a little kid I dreamed of having lots of children.  And I wanted to change the world by bringing good people into it, one person at a time. 

ruth-singingWhen I was twenty years old I wrote a song for my future children, imagining what I would say to them should they ever make a mistake so bad they were afraid to come home.  It took over 40 years to get the song recorded, but last month it happened, thanks to a friend, and this month my husband and I made it into a video on YouTube!

PLEASE WATCH!

Life is a lot of work, isn’t it?

That’s why I’ve created this blog. Now that my own kids are all grown up, I have more time to share practical tips for handling the challenges you may face too.

Here are a few you may need right now!

POSITIVE DISCIPLINE 

WHAT IS A LEADER

KIDS NEED GOOD EXAMPLES

HELP STOP BULLYING (3 posters for you)

SEVEN SUPER STRATEGIES TO SUCCEED IN SCHOOL (with  printable pdf)

Love to you and yours,

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7 SUPER STRATEGIES to SUCCEED IN SCHOOL!

 

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7 SUPER STRATEGIES to SUCCEED IN SCHOOL!

 

SUCCESS TO YOU!

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HELP STOP BULLYING!

These three posters stop Bullies!

Scroll down to the last one to download all three.


 

This one helps identify a bully:What_areBullies_frame


This one tells what to do when faced with a bully:

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This one helps kids ask themselves, “Do I ever bully others?”

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HELP STOP BULLYING!

 Download all 3 Posters HERE3Bully_tiny

My gift to you!

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WHAT IS A LEADER?

WILL THEY FOLLOW YOU?

Force alone does NOT make people want to follow. 

Dale Carnegie, author of “How to Win Friends and Influence People” said,

“A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.”

Dwight D. Eisenhower used to say that being a leader is like pulling a string. 

Pull the string,” he said, “and it will follow wherever you wish. Push it, and it will go nowhere at all.

You can begin NOW to become your child’s LEADER, by acting the way you want them to behave.

Calmly state what we want our kids to do and they will more willingly follow your example.


Mahatma Ghandhi influenced millions of people in his lifetime. He said:

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.”

Leave an example your children will want to imitate and follow.

When people tried to get him upset, Ghandhi used a technique he called, “Passive Non-Cooperation”. He would stick to his position stubbornly, but in a peaceful, non violent manner.

Josh McDowell, pastor, teacher and writer said:

“Rules without Relationship lead to Rebellion”

You can keep a good relationship with your kids without letting them ‘be the boss’. How? Instruct them patiently that there are CONSEQUENCES to every action, good or bad. Kids will test us, but continue repeating what they need to do calmly, without giving in to bad behavior yourself. 

KEEP THE GOAL IN MIND: The loving people you want them to be. 

LOVE YOUR KIDS AS THOUGH YOU WON’T HAVE THEM TOMORROW, AND TEACH YOUR KIDS AS THOUGH THEY WON’T HAVE YOU TOMORROW!

LOVE TO YOU AND YOURS!

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POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

POSITIVE DISCIPLINE MEANS GUIDING A CHILD TO SEE THAT HE OR SHE CAN MAKE A VALUABLE CONTRIBUTION TO THE WORLD.

Radio Therapist, John Jolliffe once said, 

“The way you feel about yourself is both your punishment and your reward. Your job is to become the kind of person YOU can love.”

When you feel Valuable and Needed, it makes a huge difference in what you can accomplish in life.  


HOW TO MOTIVATE PEOPLE (KIDS OR OTHERS):

From the WEAKEST to the most powerful ways to motivate others:

FORCE: This is where you say “DO it or else” Works only short term, and has negative repercussions later. Makes people fear and dislike you. 

GUILT: This is where you attempt to make the person feel bad if they don’t do what you want.  Again – it is only effective for a short time, and then makes people tire of you. 
INCENTIVES: The Carrot at the end of the stick, “If you do this, I’ll do that.”  Effective for a short time but needs variety or will lose its appeal. 
LOVE: A person will go to the ends of the earth, without pay, for someone they love.  

HOW CAN YOU GET YOUR KIDS TO HELP? 

You have to inspire them to WANT to help!

Once you have that, the rest is easy!

How do you do that?

Combining the Three ‘R’s’, of Relationship, Rules and Rewards gives you the best chance of motivating your child.

Relationship – Keep loving them. Nothing beats smiles, hugs and affirmation for encouraging a person to do better.

Rules and Rewards – Plan your strategy. Follow a system that will include incentives to action, whether a Chart, or reward for good behavior that grants special activities or privileges, to go along with a good relationship. Make it like a game, and it will be easier for everyone.

MOST of ALL – Be a GOOD EXAMPLE. Show you don’t mind ‘getting your hands dirty’ too. Your example will speak VOLUMES! If it’s a chore, get in there and act like it’s FUN. You may be pretending at first, but it WILL be fun if you’re doing it together. (Think of Mike Rowe from the show ‘Dirty Jobs’!)

READY OR NOT – YOU ARE THE LEADER!

Once you’ve shown them HOW to do a job the first time, then let them do it! Even if they don’t do it perfectly, praise efforts made. Be patient. It may take a while for them to get it right. 

LOVE YOUR KIDS AS THOUGH YOU WON’T HAVE THEM TOMORROW, AND TEACH YOUR KIDS AS THOUGH THEY WON’T HAVE YOU TOMORROW!

READ MORE on BEING A GOOD LEADER here.

LOVE TO YOU AND YOURS!

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KIDS NEED GOOD EXAMPLES!

How can we get our kids to be nice people?

Be nice people ourselves!

But they need discipline, too.

Discipline means ‘child training’.

So, what are we training kids to be?

Many parents send the message,

“Be pleasant and do what I tell you

But, what the kids hear them saying is,

“I’m the parent. I can do whatever I like while I order YOU around!”

When parents either: 1- walk around angry and complaining, or 2- drudgingly drag themselves through life like martyrs, it makes ‘being an adult’ look pretty miserable! Who would want to follow that example?

Not me! I decided long ago I would NEVER forget how to have fun!

Sometimes a little thing like FUN can steer kids in the right direction, making the right thing seem a better choice than the wrong 

Never forget how to have fun, and learn to have fun with your children, and you’ll be the parent they want to follow as an example. 

Discipline is important, too.  Please see more on DISCIPLINE here.

LOVE YOUR KIDS AS THOUGH YOU WON’T HAVE THEM TOMORROW, AND TEACH YOUR KIDS AS THOUGH THEY WON’T HAVE YOU TOMORROW!

Love to you and yours,

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INTERRUPTIBILITY – The First Requirement of Parenthood?

INTERRUPTABILITY!

While working at home with a babysitter watching the kids, my 4 year old daughter Annie came into my office with a sweet smile and asked if she could just sit there quietly for a little while. I wanted to say, “Yes” – but my brain argued with my heart, thinking,

‘If I am to be organized, I must follow rules and not let anything interrupt me.’

So, against my intuition, I put on a straight face and said,

“No honey – I have to work”,  and sent her out.

She started crying hysterically as the babysitter took her out of the room.

I tried to rationalize that I wasn’t being heartless. 

“I’m supposed to be working. I’m paying the babysitter. She should handle this!”  

But I knew I had hurt Annie. I felt horrible all day, and so did she.

A few years later, the incident came up in conversation.

“Mom, remember the time I was 4 years old and you sent me out of your office ‘cause you had to work? And all I wanted was a HUG!”

I did remember, and I was sad about it.  I said, 

“I’m so sorry honey. Would you like that hug NOW?”

And Annie said,  Nope. It expired!

I thought, “What can I do, now?”

Had I hurt my daughter forever by that one ‘businesslike’ decision?

No.

My daughter did eventually forgive me.

But what did it take?

TIME.

And love.

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SOFTEN WITH LOVE

Did you ever cook oatmeal and not wash the pan right away?

When you come back later the oatmeal is dry and stuck like GLUE.

What do you do? Soak it in water for a while and it’ll soften up again.

Love, like water on dried oatmeal, softens the heart.

The hardest part is admitting when you are mistaken, though.

Notice I didn’t use the word ‘wrong’?

‘Wrong’ holds too much shame and blame.

DON’T USE THE WORD ‘WRONG’.

INSTEAD SAY, ‘MISTAKEN’.

As a new parent, I was deathly afraid of being ‘WRONG’.

I decided not to make the same errors my parents had made.

And I didn’t. I made NEW ones.

I assumed parents must always be good examples, do the right thing, and be the ones who know what to do in all circumstances. 

Everyone makes mistakes. And they can usually be worked through, unless we never apologize. Now THAT is WRONG.

If you didn’t do wrong on purpose, then it was a ‘mistake’.

You can’t fault yourself for the wisdom you didn’t have at the time.

Don’t wait to say “I’m sorry”.

Take care of the mess before it has ‘dried out’, and it will be easier to clean up.

But if you have made the mistake of waiting, soak the problem in love, be patient with yourself and your loved ones, and you’ll see.

They won’t be able to resist forever!

Q.  How do you stop an argument?

A.  Apologize

Now there’s wisdom that works!

And, be interruptable!

Love to you and yours,

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A MAGIC FORMULA TO CHILD REARING?

Is there a magic formula to child rearing?

If there is, it surely would have to start with:

RELATIONSHIP

Get in on the bottom floor and stay with them all the way.

To simply lay down rules will not work.

As Josh McDowell said:

Rules without Relationship lead to Rebellion.

Kids need you. They know when a part of you is missing.

I like this epigram from Ashleigh Brilliant:

J. Krishnamurti wisely said: 

“Action has meaning only in relationship, and without understanding relationship, action on any level will only breed conflict. The understanding of relationship is infinitely more important than the search for any plan of action.”

Psychologists call the relationship needed for human development an attachment relationship.

To grow well, we need others to be attached to

Ones who LOVE us.

Gabor Mate, MD, says:

“From an understanding of the child . . . and the heartfelt commitment parents bring to the task of child rearing…arise[s] the spontaneous and compassionate wisdom that is the source of successful parenting.”   (From ‘Hold Onto Your Kids – Why parents need to matter more than peers,  by Gordon Neufeld, PhD., and Gabor Maté, M.D.)

A child is aware of others NOT noticing them.  We all are. They may unconsciously wonder,  “Why should I care about me?”

You may be the only one to answer that question – in the way you notice your children.

And HOW do we notice them?

Is it with hopeful expectation of a positive result, or with dread and suspicion of something awful that they will become?

At the store the other day I saw a mom scowling at her child. A frown, piercing eyes and forehead furrowing, her face and body language seemed to scream negativity.

That kind of attention will not bring about cooperation and self-regulation.

What makes the difference between a GOOD relationship and a bad one?

ATTITUDE  

How do you view your child?

I don’t think we realize how we appear most of the time. 

If inwardly, we are not paying attention, they will be aware of it.

A mom was vacuuming the house with gloom on her face.

Noticing this, her little girl asked, “Are you happy, Mom?”

Her mom said, “Yes.”

The girl’s response was, “Then why don’t you tell your FACE about it?”

Projecting a loving attitude while hoping for the best will show on your face, your body language, and everything you do.

If you can master the art of  these two things, RELATIONSHIP and ATTITUDE, you can know you did your best to make your child feel important enough to pay better attention to their own development, too.

“Make the most of yourself. For that is all there is of you.” ~ Emerson.

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