School Kids in Ghana are now using our ART BOOK!

  • Some Homes in Ghana... Some Homes in Ghana...
  • Kids in Ghana on the way to school! Kids in Ghana on the way to school!
  • Lining up for Class in Ghana... Lining up for Class in Ghana...
  • Hallway at the school... Hallway at the school...
  • Teachers preparing an Art Class Teachers preparing an Art Class
     

I’m SO excited! Ghana is now using our Art Textbook, stories and other educational materials for character development! Thanks to the hardworking and dedicated staff of The Ex-Aid Club, a Non Profit, led by Project Manager Eric Ansah,  children in the deprived areas of Ghana are now benefiting from our ART  materials, where they were previously not available.
The Ex-Aid Club is committed to Youth development, Cultural Exchange Programs and other activities for children of all ages.

EDU DESIGNS was pleased to be able to provide our videos, books and other educational materials plus a projector and DVD player to enable them to reach more children as they go to different schools.

Your support is needed! If you wish to help this worthwhile organization, please contact  Eric directly at:

Eric Ansah <nativesoned@yahoo.com>
Project Manager
+233246369676
Skype: nativesoned1
www.ex-aidclub.com
http://ex-aidclub.getafricaonline.com

Like their Facebook Page, too! https://www.facebook.com/pages/Ex-Aid-Club/156196267778679

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Me and Mr. T!


Mt. T. and Me in 2003!
 

When my son was 11 years old he wrote a letter to Mr. T after seeing ‘The A Team’ on TV.   Mr. T wrote him back a long personal letter, telling him to study hard in school, stay away from drugs and alcohol, take good care of his body and trust in the Lord!

I was so impressed with his kindness and generosity to take the time to write him!  Somewhere in the recesses of our garage I still have that letter.

Years later in 2003 I was working at Cartoon Network and got to meet Mr. T. personally.  I thanked him and told him how much his letter had meant to my son, who had taken it to heart at a time when he was receptive.

As soon as Mr. T. heard I had 7 kids he couldn’t stop telling me all about his mother who had 12 kids! He was thrilled to share with me how she kept him on the right track by consistently being a source of encouragement, wisdom and strict discipline to all of them.

Such enthusiasm and energy! He went on to share how he was so happy to be alive after overcoming cancer, and proud he had gotten his hair back.  You can read more about the amazing struggles Mr. T had to overcome here.

I was so happy I got to meet him.  What an inspiration he is, and proof again of the powerful impact a mother can have on her children!

I made this little sketch of how I managed to get through it all when my kids were little…

 

 

How can we teach our children to find happiness?

…and learn to be content?

The simple answer is: By OUR example

  • Be in the present…
  • Be joyful.

 

It’s contagious!

 

Remember to get your kids to help you … Check out my free Illustrated Behavior Charts, so they can share in the ’Family Service’, too!

 

Ruth Elliott
Director, Edu Designs
director@edudesigns.org 

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How WONDERFUL!

How wonderful! Just rediscovered! Can’t believe it took me this long to share it!

Back in 2010 Shirley Smith’s TV Show, “Talk About Parenting, LIVE”  welcomed  me to talk about EDU Designs and GoMommyGO. Though it aired a while back it has a lot to say about what we are doing to help kids!

Visit EDU Designs website: http://www.edudesigns.org/
&  GOMommyGo’s Website: http://www.gomommygo.com/
& Shirlee Smith’s website: http://www.talkaboutparenting.org/

Thank you Shirlee for your great contribution to the ‘ART’ of Parenting!

Ruth Elliott
Director, Edu Designs
director@edudesigns.org 

PS – Discover some other gems here, too! http://www.edudesigns.org/news_on_Character.html

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Emotional Connectedness leads to Greater Intellectual Capacity in Children!

© Ruth Elliott, 2012

At my art presentations I see startling evidence of Dr. Gabor Mate’s findings revealed in his book, SCATTERED (How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What you can Do About It). He explains how children engaged in an activity that includes emotional connectedness display higher levels of activity in the prefrontal cortex of the brain, where self regulation and intellectual ability develop.

This means they will develop better concentration and self control!

As they always DO at my Art Presentations, the children have a wonderful time drawing and participating.  Recently, some teachers came up to me and remarked that they had never seen them so FOCUSED and ENGAGED. The ability to ‘focus and become engaged’ in an activity is the opposite of Attentional Deficit Disorder. Dr. Mate says:

“…many children with ADD are capable of focused work in the presence of an adult who is keeping them company and paying attention to them… attachment promotes attention, anxiety undermines it. When the child is not concerned with seeking emotional contact, his prefrontal cortex is freed to allocate attention to the task at hand… The warmth and satisfaction of positive contact with the adult is often just as good as a psychostimulant in supplying the child’s prefrontal cortex with dopamine. Greater security means less anxiety and more focused attention… Where this need is satisfied, ADD problems begin to recede.”

This is something I have instinctively felt for years, that children need engagement from others in a positive emotional context.  Seeing it in action, and getting confirmation from the teachers was tremendous!

It’s nice to know we’ve been on the right track all along.

I want all children to develop better Self Control and Focus as they increase their intellectual ability. I feel so strongly about it that I am offering an opportunity to get a copy of my ART BOOK to share with a teacher or child you know.

HOW? Read the details here.

Did you know that for every book you purchase, We GIVE a book to a classroom, teacher or student that needs one? Our Art presentations inspire not only the children and their parents but the teachers who are empowered to bring art back into the classroom. Thanks to your support, we are able to help more children.

I’m so glad YOU want the same things I do!

Kids benefit from all the love we put into them.

And I benefit from all the hugs I get!

 

Ruth Elliott
Director, Edu Designs
director@edudesigns.org 


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Kids NEED ART!

  • Show Emotions Through EYES! Show Emotions Through EYES!
  • Kids hard at work Drawing! Kids hard at work Drawing!
  • Watch the Videos! Watch the Videos!
  • Kids learning to Draw! Kids learning to Draw!
     

Click on the picture above to see a VIDEO of part of a lesson!
 

Kids NEED Art! When it’s added to their Educational ‘diet’, EVERYONE wins!

It’s been PROVEN that Kids NEED ART! In the latest report of the National Council on the Arts 3/30/2012, Dr. James Catterall presents conclusive evidence that ”High arts kids considerably outperform Low arts kids” in every area.” His work reveals why students engaged in the arts do better academically, linking art and cognitive development and leading to pro social behavior later on in life. ”Why?” to paraphrase Dr. Catterall,

“Doing art is solving problems, is stimulating, and helps brain function in a variety of ways… It helps spatial reasoning, cognitive development, engagement and motivation…which also adds to social and cultural engagement in school.”

(More info at Dr. Catteral’s Centers for Research on Creativity)

Since the removal of the Arts from low income schools, children in the U.S. have fallen behind in math and critical thinking skills. People say that ‘children are our future,’ yet few know what to do. That’s where EDU DESIGNS is determined to lend a hand in a practical way. By donating Art presentations to schools plus Character building books, (including  SEE WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING AT,  the first Art Textbook to reference the CA Math Standards)  it allows Art to once again be back in the classroom where it belongs, inspiring kids to learn and increasing their creativity.  To schedule an art presentation for YOUR school*,  contact the director at: director@edudesigns.org.

*Limited to Southern CA at this time. Schools in the continental US may contact us to  request our free materials and we will mail them to you.

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Some people are only GOOD for being a BAD EXAMPLE – or: “How I GOT my own way by NOT getting my own way!”

Peanut Butter Sandwich and Apple on Top

My PBJ never made it to lunch in good shape...

Every day in Elementary school I ate the same thing for lunch: an apple and a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, which of course would get squashed by the apple before I could get to it.

At lunch I sat next to a chubby little red haired girl who, along with her frown, always had a gourmet meat sandwich she would nonchalantly pull out of her fancy designer lunch pail with a huge dessert of 2 hostess cupcakes, Twinkies or Ding-dongs.

I drooled.

At home we would have to share if we had dessert.  So, seeing that she always seemed to have extra and wasn’t getting any skinnier, one day I mustered up the courage to ask her,

“Since you have two cupcakes, would you share one with me?”

But she recoiled in horror, saying,

“NO! There’s only enough for me!”

No matter how politely I would change my phrasing, each time she would consistently reply in the same manner.  Day after day this hurt me terribly, as I pondered her insensitivity and the cruel injustice of the world.

But it did teach me two things:

1- There are mean people in the world.

2- Your job is not to become one of them

And when the light bulb went off in my head, I knew what I had to do:

WALK AWAY and

SIT somewhere ELSE.

I found some nice kids to sit with.  They didn’t share their lunch either because they only had peanut butter and jelly sandwiches too!  But we all smiled, and shared laughs instead.

Hoping to get that other girl’s goodies had been a trap for me that ruined my happiness for as long as I hung out with her. You don’t have to HATE your enemies, but you shouldn’t have to hang out with them either!

So – What did I learn from my new friends?

1- IGNORE GOODIES.

2- Choose nice PEOPLE to hang out with instead.

They may be hard to find, but not impossible! 

BEING one of the nice people?  Well, that’s harder.

However, being RIGHT all the time is even HARDER!

Cartoon of person blaming everyoneYeah…like that’ll work…

 

If you’ve already chosen PEOPLE over GOODIES – the Next CHALLENGE is:  

How do you spot REAL love from others when you see it?

1- Real love is a ONE WAY street  – which means it goes in ONE direction – from the inside OUT, expecting nothing in return.

2- Real Love is KIND, FORGIVING and PATIENT with our shortcomings.

3- Real Love looks out for OUR best interests.

4- Real Love never gives up on us, even when we DO make mistakes

5- Real Love tells us the truth.

    LOOK for those LOVING individuals to hang out with.

Learn to recognize them hidden in the crowd of ‘me-first’ types out there.

Then WHAT TO DO with the SELFISH ones? 

Ignore them.

They are probably already ignoring YOU.  Giving more won’t help.

They paid attention to what you could give them, not what they could give you.

And WHAT TO DO WITH the PAIN?

Ouch. It still Hurts.

I read somewhere that people who are truly loving or very funny have usually been hurt deeply in their lives.

It seems so unfair.

But think again:

We’ve ALL been hurt at one time or another!

So why isn’t EVERYONE very funny or truly loving?

BECAUSE WE All make CHOICES in how we react!

How Do YOU React When YOU Are Hurt (and don’t get YOUR own way)?

Unforgiveness is like taking poison and hoping the other guy dies.
That doesn’t work EITHER!

 

 Here are a few reactions to choose from (See if you can guess which DON’T work!):

1- Become angry and mean yourself. (Like in the picture above, my daughter once said: “Unforgiveness is like taking poison and hoping the other guy dies.”)

2- Conclude that ‘love isn’t worth it’ – and build a wall to sheild yourself from your need to be connected with others. Call it ‘strength’.

3- Become a doormat. Go along to get along, hoping the mean ones will stop hurting you if you are ‘nice’ to them.

4- Retreat into a fantasy world where you imagine if only you were perfect, then you would deserve to have your needs met. Strive for that unattainable daydream.

5- Immerse yourself in work, activities, food or substances to try and numb the pain.

 In case you haven’t figured it out, NONE of these work! Wasting our energy trying to protect ourselves from the pain actually ‘protects’ us from FINDING the nice people in the world who DO exist and who WOULD love us, warts and all.  

Though PAIN is unavoidable, there IS an AUTHENTIC secret to HAPPINESS you can take hold of NOW (even if you don’t get the Ding Dong or Twinkie for lunch).

(Pay attention, parents, so you can spring this on your children the next time you’re in the toy aisle at Wal-Mart):

 It’s called: ‘GRATITUDE’.

It’s already been Scientifically verified that GRATITUDE makes you HAPPIER,  but here is MY analysis of the 2 step process, (proven by years of not getting my own way)! 

I love what Tim Hansel once said:

 “Pain is inevitable, but Misery is Optional”

 

Well?   Now YOU have a CHOICE to make!

 

 

Ruth Elliott
Director, Edu Designs
director@edudesigns.org
 

PS – If you’re on Facebook, Please ‘LIKE’ my page! Then check out some quick videos from a class where I taught kids how to SHOW EMOTIONS through EYES and  SHOW EMOTIONS throughBody Language!

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LOVE is a Messy Business. Is it WORTH it?

This Love stuff is pretty insecure…

First they love you, then they don't!

How many times have we wanted love and not gotten it? A million? A trillion times?

Can it be true that “THERE JUST ISN’T ENOUGH LOVE IN THE WORLD” ?

 I think it’s more likely that there’s plenty of LOVE, but people are just stingy with it!

 Regardless of their religious persuasion, most people would agree that ‘God is Love’. Since God belongs to everyone, let’s not be greedy! Especially when the great teachers of the world have given us the same truths:

  • Buddha taught us to purify ourselves and have compassion for all creatures.
  • Jesus Christ asked us to love all beings as we love ourselves. 
  • Rabbi Hillel taught us: “Not to do to others what we wouldn’t want to be done to ourselves”.
  • Krishna taught us to see the Divine in each and everyone in the world.
  • Mohammed taught us to submit to the will of God and be his instruments.
  • St. Augustine said, “To love each person as though you had love for them alone, and to love all, as though all were one.” 

If only we could all do that. But how?

 Pascal said, “Love has reason, that Reason does not know.”

My late husband once said, “LOVE is a MESSY BUSINESS!” How True!

Woody Allen said, “Everyone wants to go to Heaven, but nobody wants to die. ”

Love is scary, for sure, but it’s the risk we all take when we go ahead and decide to open our heart to another.  And even when we do, there are no guarantees we will ever get it back! There is nothing so agonizing as the pain of love not returned.

So shall we STOP giving, then, and keep that box of chocolates for ourselves? Or Decide to avoid love altogether and return to a safe existence of order and control?

In the 1958 movie, “The Inn of the Sixth Happiness”, the character played by Ingrid Bergman feels her heart calling her to serve the poor in China.  Everyone tells her she is making a mistake if she doesn’t plan her life better.  But her emphatic response is, “The planned life is a closed life. It can be endured perhaps, but not lived!”  Luckily, she follows her heart. 

Joseph Campbell said, “We must be willing to get rid of the life we had planned to be able to have the life that is waiting for us.”

Leo Tolstoy said, “The most important thing, and a difficult one, is to LOVE LIFE, for life is God, and to love Life, is to Love God.”

Someone else said, “Love is giving the other person what they need the most when they deserve it the least.”

The MYSTERY of Love is that the more we GIVE, the more we GET - OF LOVE ITSELF!  

You can’t CONTROL love, but you can GIVE love. And you get it back in the strangest ways.

Therefore, all you can do is:

  • Jump in and pour forth your love,
  • Don’t worry about getting it back from the same place you gave it,
  • And then watch and see what happens!

Just a suggestion: If all else fails you can always get a pet, right?  Dogs will usually love you unconditionally. If you treat them right.

 And Groucho Marx said, “The best friend outside of a dog, is a book. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read.”  Thanks for reading this.

REMEMBER: Love is NEVER wasted. It WILL make the world a better place, and it WILL come back to you, somehow, some way. Really

And by the way, I need some of it too if you have any to spare.

We’re all in this together – this leaky boat called Life.  So while we’re here,  let’s try not to poke holes in the other guy’s side of the boat!

I'm You TOO!

“It’s OK – I’m you, too!” – Ruth Elliott

PS- Are you interested in helping out? Click here.

Love and best,

Ruth Elliott

Director, Edu Designs, Creator, GoMommyGO ®

Email me at: director@edudesigns.org

PS – Soon I’ll be uploading some new videos about our recent Art Presentations where the kids had so much fun they can’t wait till I come back! If you’re on Facebook, please ‘LIKE’ my page - I’ll send you the details as soon as I finish editing them! In the mean time, read some more of my articles!

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EDU Designs and GoMommyGO are reaching around the World!

View GoMommyGO & EDU Designs in a larger map

While mailing off some materials to the island of Malta recently I suddenly realized how far we’ve come.  Since 2007 people all over the world have been getting benefited by the materials EDU Designs and GoMommyGO® provide. So I decided it was time to celebrate – with a MAP –  showing a quick view of the many states, countries and people represented by our scope of influence.  I’d love to go to all these places someday – and in a manner of speaking, I have!

Are YOU in a place we haven’t been yet? Sign up for our free Newsletter and See how we can help! Visit http://www.edudesigns.org/ to examine our work with the Arts and Character Education. Even if you are not in our local area, check out what we can do for you here:

 

If you have children or are a caregiver to young children, you will definitely want to take advantage of the Free tips and Behavior Charts Illustrated by Award Winning Animation Artist Ruth Elliott (Hey!  That’s ME!). Forgive the shameless self-promotion. I just want to help kids and  - would you listen to just ANYBODY? 

And Thank YOU!

PS – Did you know that EDU Designs stops BULLYING, too, with free posters you can download and print in any size? Just click on the link, & scroll down.

Kids will be glad you did!

Thanks again.

:)

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Finland’s Education Phenomenon

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“The Finland Phenomemon” (Trailer)

Excerpt from “The Finland Phenomemon: Inside the world’s most surprising school system”,  By E.D. Kain,  Forbes, May 2, 2011

 The Finland Phenomenon, from documentary filmmaker, Bob Compton, follows Dr. Tony Wagner through Finland’s extraordinary school system. It’s a short, to-the-point documentary, but it had quite an effect on me, if only because it illustrates so succinctly why our recent approach to education reform is so wrong-headed.

In Finland there are no standardized tests. In fact, there is really very little testing at all. Finnish teachers are not monitored or rated based on test scores, and teachers (as well as their students) have a great deal of autonomy. It is a system built on trust, and the film really drives home the notion that trust – rather than faux accountability – leads to real results, leads to teachers and students and members of government all wanting to live up to the trust given to them rather than simply scraping by.

Read the full article at Forbes.

 

Excerpt from “Education in Finland” 

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, 2 December 2011

The Finnish education system is an egalitarian Nordic system, with no tuition fees and with free meals served to full-time students. The present Finnish education system consists of well-funded and carefully thought out daycare programs (for babies and toddlers) and a one-year “pre-school” (or kindergarten for six-year olds); a nine-year compulsory basic comprehensive school (starting at age seven and ending at the age of sixteen); post-compulsory secondary general academic and vocational education; higher education (University and Polytechnical); and adult (lifelong, continuing) education. The Nordic strategy for achieving equality and excellence in education has been based on constructing a publicly funded comprehensive school system without selecting, tracking, or streaming students during their common basic education. Part of the strategy has been to spread the school network so that pupils have a school near their homes whenever possible or, if this is not feasible, e.g. in rural areas, to provide free transportation to more widely dispersed schools. Inclusive special education within the classroom and instructional efforts to minimize low achievement are also typical of Nordic educational systems.

Read the full article at Wikipedia.

Excerpt from : The Children Must Play: What the United States could learn from Finland about education reform”

By Samuel E Abrams,  The New Republic, January 28, 2011

While observing recess outside the Kallahti Comprehensive School on the eastern edge of Helsinki on a chilly day in April 2009, I asked Principal Timo Heikkinen if students go out when it’s very cold. Heikkinen said they do. I then asked Heikkinen if they go out when it’s very, very cold. Heikkinen smiled and said, “If minus 15 [Celsius] and windy, maybe not, but otherwise, yes. The children can’t learn if they don’t play. The children must play.”

In comparison to the United States and many other industrialized nations, the Finns have implemented a radically different model of educational reform—based on a balanced curriculum and professionalization, not testing. Not only do Finnish educational authorities provide students with far more recess than their U.S. counterparts—75 minutes a day in Finnish elementary schools versus an average of 27 minutes in the U.S.—but they also mandate lots of arts and crafts, more learning by doing, rigorous standards for teacher certification, higher teacher pay, and attractive working conditions. This is a far cry from the U.S. concentration on testing in reading and math since the enactment of No Child Left Behind in 2002, which has led school districts across the country, according to a survey by the Center on Education Policy, to significantly narrow their curricula. And the Finns’ efforts are paying off: In December, the results from the 2009 Program for International Student Assessment (PISA), an exam in reading, math, and science given every three years since 2000 to approximately 5,000 15-year-olds per nation around the world, revealed that, for the fourth consecutive time, Finnish students posted stellar scores. The United States, meanwhile, lagged in the middle of the pack.

In his State of the Union address, President Obama outlined his plans for reforming U.S. public education, including distributing competitive grants, raising test scores, and holding teachers accountable for student achievement. But there is much Finland can teach America’s reformers, and the rest of the world, about what outside of testing and rigid modes of management and assessment can make a nation’s schools truly excellent.

Read the full article at The New Republic.

Excerpt from “An Interview with Henna Virkkunen, Finland’s Minister of Education”

By Justin Snider, The Hecklinger Report, March 16, 2011

The Hechinger Report:  It’s well-known that Finland’s teachers are an elite bunch, with only top students offered the chance to become teachers. It’s also no secret that they are well-trained. But take us inside that training for a moment – what does it look like, specifically? How does teacher training in Finland differ from teacher training in other countries?

Virkkunen: It’s a difficult question. Our teachers are really good. One of the main reasons they are so good is because the teaching profession is one of the most famous careers in Finland, so young people want to become teachers. In Finland, we think that teachers are key for the future and it’s a very important profession—and that’s why all of the young, talented people want to become teachers. All of the teacher-training is run by universities in Finland, and all students do a five-year master’s degree.  Because they are studying at the university, teacher education is research-based. Students have a lot of supervised teacher-training during their studies. We have something called “training schools”—normally next to universities—where the student teaches and gets feedback from a trained supervisor.

Teachers in Finland can choose their own teaching methods and materials. They are experts of their own work, and they test their own pupils. I think this is also one of the reasons why teaching is such an attractive profession in Finland because teachers are working like academic experts with their own pupils in schools.

Read the full interview at The Hechinger Report.

 

Excerpt from “Finnish Lesson #3: What we can learn from Educational change in Finland”  

By Pasi Sahlberg, The Pasi Sahlberg Blog, November 5, 2011

…the first lesson that Finland offers to other educational reformers is that whole-system reform can be successful only if it is inspiring to all involved and thereby energizes people to work together for intended improvement. I often use the thinking of Martin Luther King as an example of an inspiring dream that moves people. Dr. King’s dream was not that his country would have a 5-percent annual economic growth rate. That wouldn’t have inspired many people. Similarly, making a country number one in PISA rankings doesn’t excite too many educators. The Finnish Dream since the 1970s has been to provide a good public school for every child in the country. This goal inspired many and was a source of energy that was needed to push through necessary political and educational changes. It was powerful enough to bring different people and political groups to join forces for fulfillment of this dream. The Finnish Dream looks like the dream of John F. Kennedy in 1961: to put a man on the moon by the end of the decade. It was challenging, required hard work and political consensus, but in the end rewarded the entire nation through its outcomes.

Second, some observers have concluded that the secret of Finnish educational success is its well-trained teachers. Yes, it is true that teachers and leaders have higher academic education in Finland than in many other countries. But that alone is not the way to whole-system change. What is significant in the Finnish approach is that it has focused on improving the professional knowledge and skills of teachers and leaders as a collective group, not only as individuals, which is the common practice in many current reform programs elsewhere. Finnish teachers learn to work together with other teachers…

Read the full post at The Pasi Sahlberg Blog.

Finland’s Education Phenomenon, contributed by EduDesigns correspondent C. G. Blick, December 16, 2011

Ruth Elliott,  EDU Designs Director

Except as otherwise noted, © Edu Designs 2011.

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Can Good Character help you Succeed in Life?

This really happened. I asked my son one day:

What a dilemma! How to teach kids to face the awful truth without becoming awful in the process. If I asked you, “Do you want your child to succeed?”

Would you answer, “No”?

Of course you wouldn’t!
Every parent wants their child to succeed.  Regardless of their hopes, no one imagines their child as a homeless drifter begging for spare change and sleeping in the park. We all want good things for our children. And yet things can go wrong at times. So how can we prevent that?
According to the dictionary Success is:
A. The accomplishment of an aim or purpose
b. The attainment of popularity or profit.
(In other words, getting what you want and people to like you.)

IF getting what you want and people to like you is the measure of true success, then how do you explain all those popular people who got what they thought they wanted and are still miserable?

What is true success, then?
 
I define success as: “the ability to take care of ourselves and others and find love in the process.”

Taking care of one’s self is a big job. It’s more than just physical. It means finding your unique place in the universe. Discovering the talents and gifts you’ve been given to enrich your life and the lives of others, and finding joy in sharing them. 
‘Others’ must be included in the ‘taking care of’ part of our lives, or we will never really feel useful. We are inextricably connected to ‘others’ whether we like it or not. No one else is where you are. No one else can reach the ones around you better than you can. Irma Bombeck used to say that the cure for depression was to go out and do something nice for someone else. I never forgot that, and every time I’d feel bad I’d take her advice and it would work!

I believe true success in living comes when we:

  1. discover who we truly are, while we are
  2. striving to attain what we want, and
  3. manage not to hurt anyone in the process
So what does a child need in order to develop this kind of true success in life?  The same three things we all need:

A sense of SECURITY,  
The desire to LEARN and grow,
and SENSITIVITY to others.

How do we get a sense of SECURITY?
Starting from the beginning of our life, SECURITY comes from the presence of these three things:
Safety of Body
Soundness of Mind &
Goodness of Heart.


1- Safety of Body 
When our body’s basic PHYSICAL needs are met, we begin to feel secure. That means having food and water, proper activity and a place to rest when we are tired. But we also need:

2- Soundness of Mind 


When we feel secure, we feel safe to explore and LEARN. When we feel attunement from others while we are learning and exploring we begin to develop confidence and a sound mind that can open up to greater learning.
And of course the thing we can’t live without is:
3- Goodness of Heart 

SENSITIVITY to others comes as we experience love and acceptance from others. Feeling loved allows us to be able to love. Then we can begin to feel secure enough to extend that same acceptance to others.
SECURITY, of Body, Mind and Heart are needed to create a firm foundation for a life without anxiety, confusion and fear. And for that having good parents can really help. Then we feel confident to pursue our goals with confidence and without the confusion of anger creating a wrong desire to hurt others. 
Everyone gets hurt at one time or another. Things can go wrong. But we have a better chance of healing, if we’ve built a strong foundation in the beginning. When the body fails, the mind is there to hold it up. When the mind fails, the heart carries us through. There are kids out there who don’t even have parents, or have parents who aren’t paying attention. Never underestimate the power you have to bring order out of chaos and perspective to a young mind near you! 
There’s so much more to explore! I’d love to know your thoughts!
Till next time,
Yours Truly,  
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