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Kids usually WANT to do what’s Right – if you give them the chance to, and explain the advantages to them!

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Founder of EDU DESIGNS 
Creator: GoMommyGO®

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HELP! It’s Halloween!

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What’s a Mother and Father to do when they have no plan for their children’s great expectations on Halloween night?

When the excitement of costumes and candy wears off and the sugar rush is over –  then come the TEARS, the WHINING, the FIGHTING over who got MORE CANDY, and NO SLEEP for the WEARY (kids or parents).  

Can excesses can be a good teacher?

YES… of what NOT to do next time.

I am experienced in this, because when my kids were little I did it the wrong way many times, until I contrived a PLAN!

SET UP RULES BEFORE TRICK-OR-TREATING. MAKE SURE EVERYONE IN THE FAMILY UNDERSTANDS WHAT TO EXPECT BEFORE YOU LEAVE THE HOUSE.

These were MY rules. Adjust them to suit your needs.

1: There will be NO eating of candy while Trick-or-Treating without permission. (Well – I had seven kids to deal with.)

2: Bring along water for everyone to drink while you’re walking through the neighborhood.  (The body’s first reaction to dehydration is STRESS)

3: Whoever is in charge WILL inspect ALL CANDY upon returning to the home to remove whatever they feel is not safe to eat and will have the last say as to how much is eaten at that time.  (For my own kids, I would only allow the equivalent of one candy bar at night, knowing the sugar highs and subsequent lows would cause mayhem throughout the house for hours.) 

4: Whoever is in charge will oversee when and how to dole out candies after that. At first this may seem MEAN and CRUEL, but let them know you will be fair.

If you make the rules strict at first, and let the kids know YOU ARE IN CHARGE, then you can bend the rules a bit as needed, and show how merciful and ‘sweet’ you can be when you allow for any adjustments after that!

When done Trick-or-Treating, give everyone a BONUS GOOD MARK on their Behavior Chart! (NOTE: Get your FREE Illustrated Behavior charts HERE!

AND DON’T FORGET TO HAVE FUN!

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PS –  If you are late reading this and are full of remorse that you have failed as a parent yet again, just remember that teachable moments abound!  There is a way to learn about the body’s reaction to high blood sugar here.  

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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon 
Founder of EDU DESIGNS 
Creator: GoMommyGO®
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Harriet Beecher Stowe Wrote A Book without A Washing Machine!

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I felt a creative ache inside of me for years. I wanted to write a children’s book. I had an idea, I had the talent. But with seven kids, and laundry my constant companion, I felt constantly discouraged.

“When will I ever get a chance to write?”

Then came the year my 11 year old daughter Lisa had to choose an author to research for 6th grade. She picked Harriet Beecher Stowe*. And what a lot I learned from Lisa’s report. 

 

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Harriet Beecher Stowe, like me, had seven children. Unlike me, she had NO running water, and NO washing machine! And yet, she still managed to write over 30 books, including ‘UNCLE TOM’S CABIN’. Without a typewriter or computer.

Then it hit me.

“What’s MY excuse? If she can write a book, I can too!” 

And that’s when I started work on my first children’s book:

THE RICHEST KID IN THE POOR HOUSE.  In the story, a boy is disappointed with his family until he gets a hamster who doesn’t appreciate him. By the end of the story he learns a lesson that changes his attitude from Greed to Gratitude.  

THE RICHEST KID IN THE POOR HOUSE

Read more by clicking on the picture of the book.

There are only a few copies left, so if you’d like one, order it before they’re gone. 

Stories can inspire us to overcome our obstacles.

Maybe someone needs to hear YOUR story.

Thank you for struggling,

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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon 
Founder of EDU DESIGNS 
Creator: GoMommyGO®
BUILDING BRAINS AND HEARTS THROUGH THE ARTS



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What Will They Say When You’re Gone?

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 I suffered panic attacks when my mother-in-law came to visit.

She was a perfect housekeeper and I wasn’t.

With my seven kids to take care of, I’d always put their emotional needs first. The house could wait. But she never quite understood that, and I could always feel her judging me for it.

One day, in a moment of inspiration, this came to me:

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 Around Halloween that year I gave a talk to a Middle School youth group.

I told them about my predicament and showed them the joke.

I asked, “I wonder if we died today, what people would remember about us?”

I showed several cardboard tombstone ‘cutouts’ with sayings on them:

“He was Good at Video Games “

“She had lots of friends”

“She was Pretty”

“He was Tough”

Then I showed them a photo of a beautiful young lady and asked if they knew her.  They all said they didn’t know.

“Actually you do know her,”  and I revealed it was Wilda, the elderly receptionist in the front office.

They were shocked.

One girl said,

“I LOVE WILDA! But I never knew she was so pretty once!”

So I asked. “Why do you like Wilda so much?”

“Because she’s so nice.”

The other kids agreed.

Next, holding up a blank tombstone, I said,

“Maybe it’s a good idea to think of the end from the beginning.

What do you want people to remember about YOU after you are gone?”

They all got the message –  that externals don’t last.

But that’s not the most important part.

The kids appreciated Wilda a lot more the next time they went to the office.  And a few years later she went to be with her Lord.

But she left a mark:

That LIFE IS PRECIOUS. 

WHY? Because she made us feel we were.

The time seems to be flying by.

A year ago my sister died suddenly.

And this week one of our friends died.

They will be missed, too.

You never know when we will be ushered into eternity.

I like what John Jolliffe said:

“The way you feel about yourself is both your punishment and your reward. YOUR job is to become the kind of person YOU can love.”

 Wishing you the best,

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Just click on this link to leave a review, and I’ll email you a free download. Make sure you send me an email to let me know you did!

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Founder of EDU DESIGNS 
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JOEL SOLIS AWARDED GUITAR SIGNED BY RAY DAVIES

EDU DESIGNS  promotes the Arts and Music.  When Ray Davies (of the KINKS) signed his name to an Ibanez guitar backstage at the Canyon Club in Agoura, CA, 2010, it was to help us further this goal. We’re very grateful to Ray.
In a recent search for a deserving individual, we found Joel Solis, an honor student from California Polytechnic University, Pomona.
With 4 quarters on the Dean’s List, the Ella Fitzgerald Memorial Scholarship, the Music Industries Studies Scholarship, the Jazz Band Scholarship, Joel is the perfect recipient. Plus, we love his songwriting.
After 11 years in the Marine Corps, Joel returned to college to pursue music, his first love. Before he was done, though, he also assisted in creating a suicide prevention program for the University Veteran’s Resource Center.  Considering these great honors and accomplishments, we are very happy to present this fine instrument to Mr. Solis. Congratulations, Joel.
Joel Solis, Award Winner of Ray Davies Signed Guitar.

Joel Solis, Winner of Ray Davies Signed Guitar.

Ibanez Guitar with Floyd Rose – Signed by Ray Davies

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EDU DESIGNS and GoMommyGO® help children all over the world to be better people in so many ways.

EDU DESIGNS  brings Art back into schools.
No one can deny the power of Art to shape our hearts and minds.
That’s why we donate our materials to schools and teachers who can’t afford them.

GoMommyGO®  offers tools for parents to do the best job they can, and for free.
We get no salary for what we do. Our reward is the joy we get!

If you missed our latest message, “HUGS PLEASE!” take a look:
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EDU DESIGNS wants to be a Great Non-Profit! We would like to earn Great Non-Profit’s 2014 Badge to display on our website. And you can help.

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See what others have to say about us. Then post a few words about why EDU DESIGNS iis a Great Non-Profit.

It will only take a minute, but it will mean a lot to us.

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HUGS, PLEASE!

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HUMAN TOUCH KEY TO MENTAL HEALTH  At 8 years old, I was moping around the house. “Mom – I’m homesick. But I’m at HOME. How can that be?” I can’t recall her words, but whatever she said didn’t satisfy me. … Continue reading

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3 Tips to be a “GOOD ENOUGH” PARENT

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You didn’t want a life of loneliness?

Figured that having children would end that?

Congratulations! Now LAUNDRY is your constant companion!

My Mom used to tell me, “Everything comes out in the wash…” .

Since I was eight years old my plan was: To raise some wonderful kids and leave the world a better place than I found it…

Now – MY place was a wreck and so was I

So while shoveling the mud uphill every day, I reminded myself of what every older mom I’d ever met had shared with me: “Enjoy your kids while they are little – the housework will still be there long after they are gone!” 

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I read once, “No success in the world can compensate for failure at home…”

My grown daughter, Lisa, aptly said: “Success is what we all strive for in life. But the truth is, that behind every success sits a pile of failures.”

…And a pile of laundry, I say!

Thank Goodness we somehow survive our parents’ imperfect parenting, and our children survive ours – all living proof of Guardian Angels.

 Nobody is Perfect…

BUT – Can we be ‘Good Enough’?

If you are doing your best, that probably IS the best you CAN do – but there is always more to learn.

Now that I have survived, I can see mistakes to avoid, and identified things that DID work – not to make me a millionaire – but to provide a life of fewer regrets.

The way I see it, after unconditional love for your children, these three things are essential to being a ‘Good Enough’ Parent:

  • Interruptability
  • Energy
  • Preparation

#1- INTERUPTABILITY

Paying attention to someone else means: NOT MINDING BEING INTERRUPTED.

Let’s FACE it – it’s GOING to happen, and a LOT – so at first you might have to pretend you don’t mind…

Studies show that children need both attunement and eye contact from a parent or caregiver to develop a sense of security and a capacity for proper emotional self regulation as they grow. That means undistracted parenting.

According to Dr. Claudia Gold:

“When a parent gazes into her baby’s eyes, she literally promotes the growth of her baby’s brain, helping it to be wired for a secure sense of self. The MPC (The medial prefrontal cortex) has been referred to as the “observing brain.” It is where our sense of self lies. When a mother looks at a baby in a way that communicates with him, not with words but with feelings, “I understand you,” he begins to recognize himself, both physically and psychologically. This mutual gaze, literally and figuratively being “seen,” actually facilitates the development of the baby’s brain. As the MPC matures in this kind of secure loving relationship, the brain is wired in a way that will serve him well for the rest of his life. He will be able to think clearly and to regulate feelings in the face of stressful experiences.”

Read more here: http://claudiamgoldmd.blogspot.com/2010/08/how-to-grow-childs-brain.html

Dr.Gabor Mate says that when a child does not feel someone is watching, they become anxious and can be at an increased risk for ADHD. References: https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=TdVlgh6yK_A

I learned to force myself to stop, smell the roses… and hold my nose while changing the next dirty diaper, again and again… and look at it as an opportunity to communicate caring and love with this little one in front of me.

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I did.

In the space of 7 kids and decades of mothering duties, the good news was that I DID get used to it and even began enjoying it without pretending.

I guess what Kurt Vonnegut said is true:

Be careful what you pretend to be because you are what you pretend to be.” ~ Kurt Vonnegut

#2 – ENERGY

Kids are wonderful when we have the energy to keep up with them.

We get to re-experience life and delight in each new discovery along with them.

But keeping that energy up can be a difficult thing, when there is so much to get done… (did someone say, “laundry”?)

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My son actually said, “DAD, MOM HAD A NERVOUS WRECK!” when the father of my seven children came through the door one day.

I had thought it was possible to “get everything done”. Sadly, I was mistaken.

So what was an ‘idealistic, try-to-get-too-much-done mother’ like myself supposed to do?

I absolutely HATE being tired, and can’t imagine anyone liking it.

After research and experience, I learned the things that gave me more energy, and what things made me tired and sad. Here are a few things that worked for me:

A- GET MORE SLEEP…

HA! Not surprising, it was the hardest thing for me to do – Because so many things needed to get done, I felt those things wouldn’t ‘LET ME’ get the sleep I needed. But it wasn’t true. I was the one who wouldn’t let me.

Give yourself permission to get what you need, and lower your expectations of what you can get done in a day. 

B- NUTRITION:

Adequate Protein – A MUST to keep up your endurance.

DRINK More WATER! It prevents stress and constipation. Constipation is the thief of Health.

Dr. F. Batmanghelidj, said,  “You’re not sick; you’re thirsty. Don’t treat thirst with medication.” http://www.watercure.com/index.html

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TAKE VITAMINS! They really help.

There are many problems a healthy diet will cure that aren’t addressed by most doctors. I found Brenda Watson has a lot to say about it. http://www.brendawatson.com/

C- AVOID Energy Vampires:

  • Sugar makes you tired, after the first rush is over.
  • Avoid Negative people and Perfectionism
  • Avoid too much TV or Computer time…

#3 – PREPARATION

From 0-3 years the brain of a child grows at skyrocketing speed, as they make new connections and learn new things. They ‘outsmart’ us regularly! All this nonstop growth can be exhausting, unless you PLAN for it.

One day I thought, “Why are the TERRIBLE TWOS so terrible? Because:You keep THEM from doing what THEY want to do, and they keep YOU from doing what YOU want to do!”

Before I had children of my own, one day I saw an overweight grandmother waiting for someone to arrive at an office.  She was watching a sprightly 2 year old girl. The old woman just wanted to sit there, and have the little girl do the same. Barely turning to look at her, she barked out orders to the toddler, “SIT! Come BACK HERE! DON’T touch that!”

 The little girl’s eyes darted back and forth, like a squirrel looking for a chance  to escape and run.  I felt the same way. Since we were both obliged to stay there for a bit, I sensed emergency measures were needed.  Grabbing a magazine on a nearby table, I opened it up to a photo of a person’s head. I quickly pulled out a small rectangular mirror from my purse, and placed the long side of the mirror down the center of their face.  I showed the little girl how she could create funny distorted faces in the reflected image, by moving it back and forth. Soon we were laughing and making the people ‘talk’ in the magazine! Keeping her occupied was a joy, until the grandma had to leave with her. By then, the little girl wanted to stay with me.

I wondered how the girl’s experience would have been if I had not been there to engage her with something interesting to think about.

After that, I resolved to always have something on hand to entertain a child with: A magic trick, paper and pen, or just a good story to make the time go by pleasantly, instead of painfully. 

TIP: ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING ON HAND TO DISTRACT/OCCUPY or ENTERTAIN your CHILD!

Did I already mention that no one is perfect? With one exception. BEFORE we have kids we THINK we know it all.  After we have kids we are humbled to find out how little we know.

By the time I had 4 children between the ages of 2-9, I found myself yelling at the kids. What happened? Ashamed of myself,  I ran into the bathroom and cried,

 “I USED to be such a NICE PERSON!”

I returned to the kids and apologized – that it wasn’t their fault –  I loved them, but I was just really tired and needed their help.

I asked them, “Do you like it when I yell?”

Their answer was, “No.”

I told them “I don’t either.”

Then and there we decided we needed a system to organize tasks. We had our first family meeting of minds that night. I agreed I wouldn’t yell and they agreed to help. We wrote down all the chores on small pieces of paper and drew them out of a hat. When someone thought they couldn’t do the job they had picked out, we traded chores, until everyone felt confident he had one he could handle. That night I made our first chart with the chores we had settled upon, with pictures instead of words, since some of the kids couldn’t read yet. At the end of the week we would all go to the dollar store, and they would each be allowed to pick out one thing  – anything they wanted! Though it was usually candy (Since I didn’t allow them ANY candy the rest of the week), once in a while they’d pick out a toy or some other treasure that appealed to them.

That’s how my personal system of illustrated charts began.  It worked so well, I kept thinking, “Why doesn’t someone do this for mom’s who can’t draw?” After 27 years in the animation industry, I concluded that that someone should be me.

You can take my charts and customize them to your needs.

Download them here: http://www.gomommygo.com/thankdontspank.html

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What makes us YELL?

Why do we get angry?

Anger is a secondary emotion.

Another feeling comes before it: Some type of Pain.

Frustration. Exhaustion.  Being TIRED can lead to being Angry…

 

When a car runs out of gas it has nothing in the tank but fumes to run on.  So we get frustrated when we can no longer handle it.

Think about the mechanics of what goes on when you have spent all your energy:  As soon as you have nothing left to give, everything inside of you wants to STOP.

But, if you are not allowed to stop, it just takes one more demand upon you, and the knee-jerk reaction is to  ‘fume’, explode, and Voila – Instant energy.

However it’s not the kind of energy you want…

ANTIDOTE: REFILL BEFORE you run out of Gas!

You may have started out with a full pitcher of ‘Love Juice’ in the morning to give out to everyone,  but after pouring it out all day, you need to refill your pitcher, too!

So -

Before you begin  ‘fuming’,  STOP!

Get a glass of water, cup of tea or coffee, and run into a quiet place – the bathroom, bedroom or just close your eyes for a moment – to call out for help – BEFORE you need it.

For myself, usually I would dash to the bathroom and pray, “HELP, GOD! I can’t make it without you!”,  and God and I came to be good friends.

Every little bit – not only helps – it’s ESSENTIAL.

Think of it this way:

You are the HOSE, not the water.  Let it flow.

Tomorrow is another day…

There’s so much more to share, but it will have to wait until another time.

For now –  I wish you all a Happy Mother’s Day!

Blessings,

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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon

Director, EDUDESIGNS.ORG, GoMommyGO.com

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MILK MEN TO THE RESCUE…

When I hear the words, ‘MILK TRUCK’, three uncanny stories come to mind.  Absolutely true.  Two are from my own life.  Take the next ‘step beyond’ to see what happened.

Milk Man in Houston, Texas Saves a 7 year old Girl

One day at the ripe age of 7 years old, I got out of school an hour earlier than my brother and sister, and walked home to an empty house.  I went to my neighbor’s, hoping to play with them, but they weren’t home, either.  Thank goodness their swingset welcomed me, remembering how they had always told me I could use it, “…any time”.

Having just seen the movie, Trapeze, with Burt Lancaster, I figured this was my big chance to practice what I had seen him do. Sitting on the trapeze bar I’d get a good swing going, then hang by my knees and then slip down with my ankles wrapped around the chain so I could hang swinging by my feet.  I was getting pretty good at it, when I got tired. Normally I would just drop to the ground onto my hands and knees.  However, this day I was wearing sandals, not my usual sneakers, and as I tried to get off the trapeze bar, the strap of my right shoe caught the bottom loop of the chain, and I was stuck – hanging upside down by one foot!

Terrified, the sudden realization hit me: I was alone.  Who could help me?

Without my siblings or neighbors, I yelled and cryed out to God or anyone who would listen, hoping someone would find me.

Within minutes, someone did. A Milkman driving by saw me!

He helped me down, and as I was thanking him profusely, my brother ran up to me, sweating from head to toe, huffing and puffing, “I was two blocks away… when all of a sudden I saw a picture of you… like on a TV set… in front of my eyes! You were hanging upside down from the swings, screaming!”

I couldn’t believe it! My brother Mike and the Milkman had each unknowingly ‘heard’ my prayer.

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Milk Man in NYC Saves a Lady from Bleeding to Death

The second time a milkman came to the rescue was years later when I moved with my pregant sister into in a 4th floor walk-up apartment in New York City. We had no electricity and no telephone.  One night, she suddenly started miscarrying and hemorrhaging profusely.

“Oh, God!” I thought.  “What should I do?” The neighbors across the hall were gone, and I had no way of getting her to the hospital.

In a panic, I flew down the four flights of stairs to the street, waving frantically to cars going by, but no one would stop.  In desperation, I went out into the street and yelled to the next vehicle I saw, a Milk truck! I told the driver in tears that my sister was bleeding to death and needed a ride to the hospital, a couple of miles up the street.  He got right out and rushed to help her into to his truck, and took her to the hospital in time – and she lived!

I never knew his name, or saw him again to thank him in person, but I can’t count the many times I thanked him in my heart.  I know God answered my prayer through him that night.

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Milk Man in Bristol England Feeds 300 Orphans

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In the early 1800’s, an orphanage ran out of food. They had nothing to feed the 300 children under George Müller’s care*.  It was time for breakfast, and the children were hungry, so he told everyone to sit down, fold their hands and pray, thanking God for what He would provide.

Soon there was a knock at the door.

It was a Baker, who said that God had woken him up at 3 in the morning telling him to quickly bake bread for the orphanage. Could they use it?

Why, YES, they could!

Shortly after that came another knock at the door.

A Milkman’s cart had broken down right in front of the orphanage – and without refrigeration the milk would spoil before he could fix the wheel.  Would they please take the milk?

Why, YES, they would!

That morning, a Milk man and a Baker had unknowingly been the vehicles to answer the prayers of those children. Each with different gifts he was given. One Bread, one Milk. But both with the ‘Milk of Human Kindness’.

Whatever  your image of a Creator, God or Heavenly Father, no one can deny that, the ‘Milk of Divine Kindness’ is active in our lives, listening and answering when we cry out. You never know when you may be called upon to deliver some of that ‘Milk’, too!

*http://www.christianity.com/church/church-history/church-history-for-kids/george-mueller-orphanages-built-by-prayer-11634869.html

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My earthly dad used to say that folks accused him of being a generous man. But he would say, “Oh NO! I’m NOT generous at all – you see, it makes me FEEL so GOOD to give, I feel like I’m being VERY selfish!”

I don’t have bread or milk to give today, but what I do have, I’d like to share. The download of my Artbook for kids, called, “SEE WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING AT!” normally sells for $9.99, but I’d like to give a copy to anyone making a donation of any size. After you donate through the button below you’ll get your free download!

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Hankering after STUFF is never ENOUGH… Finding True Treasure…

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Could WE be the treasure in earthen vessels?

 

As you think about what you want for the future, for the world, and for your kids, I’m sure Peace and True Happiness are on your list.

Though it has its place, money certainly hasn’t brought true happiness to me.

 

 

I wrote this little poem recently, thinking of the conflict between ‘Getting what you want’ and ‘True’ satisfaction:

Finding Treasure, © Ruth Elliott, 2013

Ignorance, when fueled by desire,

Scrambles to fight, following a Liar…

And after all the getting’s done,

with no peace or justice won,

joys vanish in the present,

while seeking what was pleasant.

 

Greed stomps on others to get its winnings,

and only piles up further sinnings.

Though the truth is plainly told,

(that all that glitters is not gold),

it’s blind to all the pain and rue,

and never ceases hurt to do.

 

In Forgetting all this earthly stuff

(and along with getting, had enough),

to him who holds the key to heaven

True Treasure will at last be given.

Those we know who have it still,

will never lose it, never will!

 

Was I important?  Or was money MORE important?

Of course I was important, but kids only know what they FEEL. When I think about the agonies struggling to be a good parent to my seven kids, I’ve come to realize that a lot of my personal anxiety and stress as an adult could be traced back to my relationships with the people closest to me as a child.

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Ruth at 10 years old…

 

I remember how lost I felt when my mother went to work outside the home. And I was 10 years old at the time when it happened to me!

Then I too had to work at different times when my kids were little, and suffered a lot of pain and guilt over it.

A thirst for uncovering why things affect us the way they do has led to my research on Psychology, Parenting, Stress, Anxiety and ADHD.

 

Here’s some of what I’ve discovered in my travels:

 

Breakdown of the Mother and Child Relationships

One problem few medical professionals talk about is the breakdown of the mother and child relationship, due to economic pressures.  Nearly 60% of today’s workforce is women, many who are forced to go back to work too quickly after their babies are born.

This creates a subconscious feeling of abandonment in the child, according to Dr. Gabor Mate.[1] In addition, he states that stressors on pregnant moms create rising cortisol levels in their babies, even before birth, that can predispose them to ADHD.

There are studies showing that the BIOLOGY of the brain is interpersonal – beginning in the UTERUS. [2]

Stanford based psychologist  Robert Stopolski says we are affected by our environment as soon as we have one. Where is our first environment? When we are planted in the womb.

Studies show that our biology affects our babies in the womb.  Babies whose moms are stressed while pregnant had higher levels of Cortisol at birth, and the more stressed they mother is in pregnancy, the more behavior problems are seen by the time their child is 3 or 4…  And this is a lifelong affect.

So how can we get rid of the STRESS?

Stress can be greatly alleviated by a feeling of attunement from others.

We NEED EACH OTHER!

Dr. Claudia Gold says, in her book, Keeping Your Child in Mind,

“When our feelings are validated, we know that we’re not alone.”

A lack of real attunement to our kids can rob them of the thing they need the most, a secure beginning to give them a firm footing in life.

Even if we can’t control the world, we STILL have the power to choose PEACE in our OWN home. It means choosing NOT to fall for the LIE that money is everything.

Paying attention to our kids is what they really need.

Especially when they are littlest.

You know how precious they are!

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Baby Mama © Ruth Elliott, 2010

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I wrote a blog about the importance of mom’s herehttp://gomommygosblog.wordpress.com/2010/04/03/you-love-this-person-called-mama/

Remember, whatever your life is now:

“We can’t change the past, but we can ruin a perfectly good Present, by worrying about the Future!”

Please make the best of what you have TODAY, especially those treasures that are asking you to pay attention to them!

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[1] Check out this talk by Dr. Gabor Mate:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=TdVlgh6yK_A

 

[2] Psychiatrist Daniel Seagull from UCLA talks about INTERPERSONAL Neurobiology here: http://drdansiegel.com/

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