9 TIPS TO KEEP YOU FROM FREAKING OUT

Managing kids may be the easier part.

The bigger challenge? Managing ourselves.

You set up rules for good behavior, and then, BANG!

All of a sudden you’re acting the way you don’t want the kids to act.

But how are we supposed to deal with that?

We need to be in charge of us first.

Here are 9 tips to help:

TIP # 1  OBSERVE YOURSELF

It’s good to pay attention to others, but take a look at you. What is happening inside you? The better you are at spotting your own body’s signals, the better you will get at knowing another person’s needs.

Are YOU hungry? Tired? Overloaded? Dehydrated? Have you been ignoring your inner voice? Or heard it and didn’t know what to do about it?

TIP # 2  OBSERVE OTHERS

Everyone needs the same things.

Stop and think of their needs, and what was causing their behavior.

Maybe THEY are hungry, tired, dehydrated, etc.

TIP # 3 – KEEP ANGER DOWN. DON’T LET YOURSELF GET TIRED

If I ask myself, “Why am I angry?”, nine times out of ten it is because more is needed of me than I can fulfill. My brain doesn’t work well when I’m tired!

When a person is worn out they will jump into anger mode without thinking, to get a temporary boost of energy.  However, anger backfires and raises cortisol levels which in the long term can drain us further, causing depression, weight gain and make problems with others.

TIP # 4 – KEEP YOUR ENERGY UP

S= SLEEP:  Rest to REFILL so you’ll have more to give.

E= EXERCISE : Move to get rolling.  An object in motion tends to stay in motion.

N= NUTRITION: What you put in WILL control how much energy you have to put  out.

Drink LOTS of water, (Read about the importance of water here: http://www.watercure.com/)

Stay regular – Constipation is the thief of health.

Eat lots of fruits and veggies and avoid soda and refined carbohydrates. After the initial rush, SUGAR makes you TIRED!

T= THANKFULNESS:  Studies have shown that gratitude makes us happier and healthier. Thinking of others boosts our own mood and curbs depression. A SMILE increases your ‘Face Value’!

TIP # 5 – STAY IN BALANCE

Moderation in all things: TV, Work, Eating, Exercise, Fun.

Your kids will not die if they are not the best looking or smartest kids in the world.

Don’t expect to get everything done. Two weeks after you are gone from this world your house will get dirty again – all by itself!

TIP #6 – THINK AHEAD

Schedule your activities.

Learn how to be a good leader.

Read my tips on being a good leader here.

Think ahead about what your family will need so you won’t be running by the seat of your pants.

TIP #7 – HAVE SOME FUN

Allow time for fun.

The dishes can wait.

Happiness is important too!

Don’t expect the kids to be adults – yet.

TIP #8 – DON’T BE AFRAID TO APOLOGIZE

You had a moment. You blew it. Don’t try to rationalize or blame. Just admit it. You’re only human. NOBODY IS PERFECT. Your kids already know it! Seek the solution to the stress you were under and get back in charge.

TIP #9 – LIVE AND LET LIVE 

Give yourself and others a little space to breathe. Like the margins that surround text on a page, a little space makes everything easier.

Allow your kids to discover who they are too, and you may all like each other a lot more.

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Please read my little story, “The Land of I’m Sorry”.

Enjoy your life and precious loved ones,

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Ruth Elliott-Hilsdon
Director, EDU DESIGNS
Creator, GoMommyGO 

 

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